By Venn Williams
We know the recent financial crisis has caused a lot of stress at the big end:
corporations have collapsed, central governments have injected billions of
dollars into their economies, and there have been major growth down-grades
across the globe.
But what about the stress closer to home? What effect is the downturn having
behind closed doors?
Money is one of the most emotive issues there is. It can be a point of tension
in any relationship at the best of times but when finances are tight this
tension can reach breaking point.
Research has shown that there's a link between relationship breakdowns and the
All Ordinaries index: when markets are up divorces are down and when markets are
down, relationships crack. Divorces last peaked during the tech wreck in 2001,
then fell to just 6.6% at the height of the boom last year (the lowest divorce
rate in 20 years). Researchers expect to see this number rise again with this
recent financial down-turn.
Relationships Australia recently conducted a survey and found that the number of
people concerned that financial stress may break down their relationships has
more than doubled in two years. Two years ago, at the height of the boom, only
18% of people felt money could end their relationship; this number now stands at
40%.
Over the years we've found that while people have strong goals for many areas of
their lives, they often don't have clear financial goals. The Relationships
Australia survey found that 55% of people felt that 'different goals or
expectations' from their partner was a negative factor on their relationship.
With this in mind, try some of these strategies to help ease the strain:
1. Develop a financial plan together. Put in writing what you and your partner
want to achieve financially and list the ways to make it reality. It is
important to keep in mind your earning potential and not over commit.
2. Set an accurate budget. Sure budgeting is boring but it is the key to making
sure you have money available to cover the necessities.
3. Review your financial goals with your partner every few months. Discuss your
expectations.
4. Talk talk talk. Talking about the issues as they arise and being realistic
about the solution is important to help avoid financial stress affecting your
relationship.
5. Seek professional advice. See your financial planner; while they might not be
able to help you on the love front, they can give you an objective point of view
on your financial situation and help you find the best strategy for moving
forward. And if the strain on your relationship gets too much, see a
relationship counselor.
Also keep in mind that you and your partner may have different risk profiles -
you need to find out what these are and work within them. In our experience when
partners have different risk profiles towards investing the result does not
favour the most aggressive profile. The result is most often no action at all,
and hence nothing is ever done toward creating wealth (except paying off the
home). This is not a result for either partner.
Remember you and your partner are on the same team when it comes to your
finances so work out a plan together.